âI was inspired by the way he lived his life,â Jackson said of her father. âBecause you never know when you will take your last breath.â
The devastating loss changed the trajectory of her life and Jackson quit her job with plans to travel around the world. She planned a nine-month long trip, and vowed she would use the time to work through her grief and figure out her own path for the future.
âAfter I returned home, my boyfriend, Troy Thompson, proposed to me on New Yearâs Day 2017,â Jackson said.
Then in March of that same year, Thompson was diagnosed with stage 4 nasal cavity cancer. Doctors said he had only a 35% chance of survival.
âHe started his chemo and radiation treatments in Cincinnati,â Jackson said. âI became his caregiver in a blink of an eye.â
At the age of 31, Jackson was suddenly not only a fiancĂ©, but was also a cook, chauffeur, housekeeper and sole provider since Thompson could no longer work. The couple remained hopeful, but after two months, Thompsonâs tumor grew back and nearly doubled in size.
âWe were told Troy would need surgery and could lose his eye,â Jackson said. âUnfortunately, they did end up removing his left eye and part of his nostril and skull.â
Thompson was permanently changed, but Jackson said her love for him never wavered and she looked at it as âjust another obstacle to overcome.â
âI kept saying we could postpone our wedding,â Jackson said. âBut he didnât want that because the wedding was the reason he kept fighting.â
So, after Thompsonâs recovery, the couple got married on Aug. 11, 2018 in Piqua.
âIt was more than just a wedding celebration,â Jackson said. âWe were celebrating the fact that he was alive and made it to that point.â
After the couple returned from their honeymoon, Thompsonâs scans showed the tumor was returning and doctors advised them to âcall Hospice,â because there was nothing more that could be done.
But Thompson refused to accept this prognosis and begged his doctor for another option. One week later, Thompson and Jackson received the call that one more exploratory surgery had been scheduled.
âTroy has had so much done to him,â Jackson said. âBut he is strong, and inspires me every day.â
In March of 2020, Thompson was finally cancer free and in July of that same year, Jackson decided to start a business designed to help chronically and terminally ill people and their loved ones plan celebratory events. âTimeless Dream Eventsâ was created in honor of Thompson and Jacksonâs dad.
âThe business is my heart and soul,â Jackson said. âWe love to celebrate life each day and I want everyone to feel the same way.â
Jackson, who has also written a book about caregiving and turning pain into purpose, encourages others to write about their experiences just as she has done.
âIâve been blessed to help multiple caregivers,â Jackson said. âI recently officiated at and helped plan a wedding at the Hospice of Miami County for a dear friend of mine who wanted to get married before her father passed away. Just seeing the love that filled that room was amazing.â
Jackson said that launching her business in the middle of a pandemic didnât deter her. She ended up meeting more people via email and video calls who had read about her own love story and were inspired by it.
âPeople see the experiences Iâve had and they want to work with me,â Jackson said. âI have amazing clients and Iâm grateful I followed through with my purpose to see where it took me.â
Jackson helps anyone plan weddings, parties, showers and other events on short notice and with any budget in mind. She only wants to ensure that everyone can plan that special celebration, no matter what the circumstances.
âEven in your darkest hour, I always say, try to find some kind of hope,â Jackson said. âHope and faith is what got me through the past few years and my dad always told me, âYou can either have your footprints in the sand or your butt prints on the couch.â That has always stayed with me, and I will always be chasing and trying my best to catch my dream.â
For more information, visit timelessdreamevents.com.
Contact this contributing writer at banspach@ymail.com.
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